A good therapist will help you both find your strengths and workwith them to help you resolve the issues. They should manage the”blame game” and no one should be shamed or blamed. There may be acombination of single and couples visits. I think there should be apositive feeling for both people as they find ways to do what theycan, rather than spending time diagnosing the people. Success hasto do with both people working toward a better relationship, notjust in terms of communication or giving what one wants inexchange.
If what he/she is telling you is helping then they are doing a goodjob, or at least what they are meant to do. But if they are turningyou against each other and making things worst, the obviously not.